You have been trying too hard to change the way you look all your life, now it’s time to change the way you look at yourself instead.
There is only one YOU on this planet, unique and one of a kind. You are not an accident, you were created for a reason, so you should celebrate your uniqueness!
If there is anything you dislike yourself for, you need to forgive yourself. Let go of any guilt or regret. It’s a sheer wastage of time and energy and is only preventing you from moving forward. Accept yourself for who you are, the way you look and how you sound.
How To Forgive Ourselves Totally by R.T.Kendall is a great book to learn how to forgive ourselves and start again by Breaking free from past mistakes.
It is not selfish to love yourself. It does not make you conceited, arrogant or egotistical. It just means you have a healthy respect for yourself.
Why is it important to love yourself? Here are 10 reasons:
1. You will become a much happier person
After all, you do spend most of your time with yourself and when you start loving yourself, you give off a loving, positive vibe at all times. Imagine being constantly in the company of someone you love.
If you have ever been in an airplane, you will remember the opening safety procedures: you must put your own oxygen mask on first before you are able to help others with theirs. Loving yourself works exactly the same way. You need to love yourself in order to be able to love others. You cannot give something you don’t have.
2. Self-love attracts love
You cannot truly love someone until you love yourself. If you want to be treated in a particular way, start treating yourself the same way first, others will follow. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
Love Yourself, Heal Your Life is a highly recommended book. It teaches how to directly apply Louise’s techniques of self-love and positive thinking to a wide range of topics that effect us all on a daily basis.
3. Loving yourself makes you look much more attractive
Self-love enables you to carry yourself better, you exude confidence and well-being and others are attracted to these qualities. People always want to spend more time with someone who is self-confident, happy and fun to be around.
“When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful” – Zoe Kravitz.
4. You become your own best friend
When you love yourself, you learn to enjoy your own company and you are always supportive of yourself. You will create someone you can reply upon in yourself.
5. You are able to deal with adversities in a better way
When you love yourself your perception towards any challenge that you may face changes and you manage your responses more effectively and are able to get yourself out of crisis a lot faster.
6. Self-love allows you to start respecting yourself
You begin to start taking better care of yourself, eating right, and saying no to things that do not resonate with you or things you do not want to do. You will raise your standards across all areas of your life.
“Give yourself the love you seek and the universe will send people who match it” – Abraham Hicks.
7. You will start attracting other people into your life who perceive things in a similar way to you
From a metaphysical standpoint, we must align with what we want to attract, so when you love yourself you will attract people into your life who have a similar healthy, loving relationship with themselves.
“If you truly love yourself, you could never hurt another” – Buddha
8. You will stop criticizing and blaming others
Self-love helps us take ownership of our own lives, which gives us power. We realise we are the creators not the managers of our lives, so we stop blaming others for the situations we find ourselves in.
9. You will never feel lonely again
You will develop a deeper connection with yourself enjoying every moment in your own company. You will also become better in-tune with your intuition.
Teal Swan has written a fantastic book on the subject called – The Anatomy of Loneliness: How to Find Your Way Back to Connection
“Embrace the gloriousness that you are” – Elizabeth Gilbert.
10. You won’t need validation from others
You won’t need others to prove your worthiness to you. You will accept yourself for who you are, carry yourself with dignity, you will feel secure and others approval will not be relevant anymore.
Imagine what your life would be like if you’d only believed in your own worth.
“Now go and find the YOU and love the YOU you find”