We can not live an aligned happy life if we are carrying anger and resentment in our hearts for others. Forgiveness is about letting go of resistance, letting go of the negative energy that is holding us back from living our life to its full potential.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting and it definitely does not mean condoning the behavior which caused you that hurt, it is a choice that you deliberately make, to free yourself of mind imprisonment that you have got yourself in. Every time we think of the resentful thoughts that cause us pain and suffering we give away our power to the ones who inflicted those wounds.
Forgiveness is withdrawing attention from the thing that’s keeping you out of the Vortex(What you Desire)”. – Abraham Hicks
Here are 8 Reasons Why it is Important to Forgive
1. Stop Living in the Past
It’s an utter wastage of time and energy to hold someone/something in your thoughts which does not make you feel good. It just does not let you move in the direction you want to head in and causes a constant pull in the opposite direction. You could be using the same time to create a life you have always dreamed off and fully embrace your future.
Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. – Marianne Williamson
2. Forgiveness is for Yourself
Forgiveness is meant more for yourself than the person you are forgiving. It is for your own peace of mind. People you are mad at are carrying on with their life as usual while you carry the burden of holding them in your thoughts constantly. You are the one who benefits the most from your forgiveness. Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything by Iyanla Vanzant is a book I would highly recommend which talks about how we can liberate ourselves from the wounds of the past and embrace the new power of forgiveness.
3. Not forgiving causes health issues
“Forgiveness isn’t just practiced by saints or martyrs, nor does it benefit only its recipients. Instead, studies are finding connections between forgiveness and physical, mental, and spiritual health, and evidence that it plays a key role in the health of families, communities, and nations.” says Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, a psychology professor and author who has dedicated most part of his life to the study of forgiveness.
Carrying hatred, anger and resentment over a period can lead to all kinds of health problems and worsen the preexisting conditions. To name a few.
- lack of self-esteem
- heart problems
- blood pressure issues.
4. Forgiveness is Love
There are many who think forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But nothing can be further from the truth. It is the highest and most beautiful form of love. It takes a person of strong character to forgive. You acknowledge the hurt someone caused and you still choose to forgive them and that takes a lot of strength.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”. -Mahatma Gandhi
5. Free Yourself
Once you have forgiven you have made peace with the pain, and you are ready to let it go. It frees you from the trapped jail cell of anger, bitterness and hatred and gives you the opportunity to move on with your life.
6. Forgiveness and Healing
Your healing process only begins once you have forgiven and removed the anger and resentment from your heart. It will bring an amazing sense of wholeness and peace. Meditation works great in forgiving yourself and others. Here’s a FREE tool that I’ve used.
7. Develop Compassion
Forgiveness releases you from the victim mentality. You start developing compassion for yourself and others which leads you on a path to healthy relationships.
8. Forgiveness brings Hope
It gives you the ability to restore faith in yourself and enhance your self-esteem and give you hope.
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies”. Martin Luther King, Jr.
We cannot change the past, but forgiveness leads us to physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. It helps us to be joyous and hopeful once again.